Speaking with a Full Heart
Speaking before a group I can get nervous and stressed. Better I address my audience as if I was talking with a friend. Speaking from the heart transforms any message I wish to convey. Also emulating excellent speakers gives me priceless insights.
Focusing on being more wakeful for over two decades I have practiced Insight Dialogue (ID). It teaches me to explore how to best show-up when I talk. Mindful speech comes from becoming more conscious of the entire talking and listening process.
This innovative communication experience has resulted in my greater well-being. For example, I gain better clarity when I pause and relax in the process of talking. Developing such calmness is balanced by a profound sense of attentiveness to what is being said or heard.
Insight Dialogue (ID) consists of exploring six basic steps: Pausing, Relaxing, Opening, Trusting Emergence, Listening Deeply, and Speaking Our Truth.
I first pause and awaken before I speak. It is critical to take one’s time before we vocalize. I then allow myself to relax. This is essential in order to focus fully on the task at hand. Opening allows me to settle and find clarity as to what is presently happening. When I trust emergence, so to I explore new possibilities. In order to increase my awareness, I must listen deeply to what is going on. And finally, this process allows me to speak my truth as I make a profound heart/mind connection. In my opinion, eloquence comes from the embodiment of both compassion and insight when communicating. The simple act of remembering allows me to speak what is of benefit. ID enables me greater intimacy and connection with others.
Beginning with a pause, and relaxing sets my mind at ease and enables me to see things as they actually are in the “now”. Tension acts to distort and block my communication. As I practice my speech with a sense of grace I become more aware. The calmer I become, the better I speak. ID also involves inquiry into the nature of better communication. Choice of more virtuous language can shift a fear-based dialogue into a more compassionate one. Insight Dialogue works directly with language and is about transformation in speaking with a sense of the sacred. Anytime I speak before a group I take the opportunity for a five minute meditation. I work on pausing, relaxing and opening to the possibility of deeply connecting to my audience. As I better listen to both my body and my feelings, I am better able to embody in words my own truth and attain a unified heart felt connection.
*Special thanks to Gregory Kramer, Insight Dialogue teachings